Toledo family expresses gratitude to birth mothers for choosing life
Like most parents, Amy Schnorberger gets teary talking about the gift that her children represent. But, unlike most parents, her gratitude is directed toward specific human beings as well as God. Because Amy and her husband, John, are the adoptive parents of Katy, 7, and Drew, 5, both of whom were granted life by mothers who could have chosen otherwise.
“When John and I got married, we just wanted to be parents. It didn’t matter how we accomplished that, really. We just wanted to raise children,” Mrs. Schnorberger said. “I can’t even tell you how much our children mean to us.”
[singlepic id=2 w=320 h=240 float=left]As you might expect, she has strong feelings on the topic of abortion. “To us, these birth families are heroes. They did what was best for the children, and not necessarily what was easiest for them at the time. They put aside what other people were telling them. They put aside their own understandable desire to get out of a difficult situation, and they chose adoption. I admire the courage and the faith of anyone who does that.”
Both adoptions were handled sensitively
“There are so many issues that surround any adoption. There is so much information both sets of parents need to have to make a good decision. Catholic Charities helped with all of that. There was no sense of hurrying the process along. They were thorough enough for all parties to feel they were making a good decision,” Mrs. Schnorberger said.
The Schnorbergers enjoy open adoptions for both of their children, which means they remain in periodic contact with the birth families of both of their children.
“How open you want your adoption to be is always up to the families involved,” Mrs. Schnorberger said. “And that’s where Catholic Charities is of service. They take the time to make sure the situation’s going to work for everybody – the child, of course, but also the birth family and the adoptive family. All of them need to be on the same page.”
The Schnorbergers looked at different adoption options – both international agencies and independent adoption services. But they felt that Catholic Charities’ compassionate and complete counseling process offered the best opportunity for both sets of parents to understand and give their consent.
“You have to remember, it’s not easy for birth mothers,” Mrs. Schnorberger said. “They have to think things through as they carry the child. And then at the end of that road, they have to say good-bye. I think it’s important that the selflessness of birth mothers be recognized.”
“In fact, at our house on Mother’s Day, these women are very much honored. It means so much when they tell us, ‘Every time we see you with these kids, we know we did what was best for them.’”